A hallmark characteristic of addiction is impulse control, so it is not uncommon for people with this disease to do things they regret while using. You have to forgive yourself and try to let those events stay in the past where they belong. Self-loathing and blame can take a huge toll on self-esteem and increase the likelihood for relapse. Remember that you are only human. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and don’t allow your past to define how you view yourself going forward.
Do a nice thing each day.
It may not sound like much, but making an effort to do one kind thing each day can help people increase their appreciation for you, which in turn can increase your self-appreciation. The gestures can be simple: Hold the door open for somebody; take the time to give someone thoughtful directions if they ask; or let someone else sit on the bus while you stand. You should also consider the healing benefits of volunteering in your community. One study, published in BMC Psychiatry, notes, “Self-worth and feeling able to contribute to society…volunteering [are] perceived to be essential elements of successful recovery.”