Once you’re open to treatment for your addiction and start to receive the mental and physical help you need, you will only then acquire the education and tools needed to work on rebuilding the marriage and repairing the damage done by your addiction. Healing is possible, often in part, because you made the decision to face the addiction head-on and work on the issues that initially led you to this point.
How Treatment Helps the Spouse
Unless your spouse has faced an addiction of their own or has previously partnered with someone who has, he or she will most likely not fully comprehend or relate to the situation, or know how to handle it. There are a few deceptive behaviors that people often adopt when faced with a partner showing signs of addiction. It’s easy to fall into denial even if your spouse does notice what’s happening around them. More often than not, the addicts’ spouse chooses not to acknowledge that there’s even a problem.
Unfortunately, ignorance is not bliss and eventually the truth comes out. The spouse then often feels cheated, lied to, manipulated, and uncertain about what they should have done or what they can do to help. On one hand they don’t want to hurt their spouse’s feelings, but on the other hand, they want to fix the problem. It can become very confusing not to know how or where to start to address the apparent addiction, which further adds to undo stress on the relationship.